Fake Memories

There is a concept of Living in the Now.

But some of us are quite entangled in the past. We try transcending it, try breaking from it, but yet we are stuck. Because we are stuck, we have no control of our future.

But what if your past was all fake ? Then logically it would follow that the future has hope because the past no longer has influence.

And there's a possible way to feel like living in the NOW. Living in the moment without feeling the past determining a bright new future.

Let's imagine we were created just today and these memories in our mind are just implanted by science. Do it for a day, and see what happens!

The Drive By Smile

The Drive By Smile is Like a drive by shooting, but more pleasant. I tested that in these terrible driving conditions, and found people will smile in return. They can't help it. Smiling is a reflex reaction. It's simple really.

If you have time, try this wherever you are at the moment. Think of something pleasant or funny. Something that brings a smile to your face. Got your picture? Are you smiling? Good. Now swivel your head around towards the other people in the room/train/library - wherever. Coming into someone smiling works easier for most people than seeing someone, getting their attention and then smiling. I think I will try other variations. I'm experimenting with the 'Drive By Suspicious Glare' and the 'Drive By Look of Confusion'.

Viva Le Tourist

I am having this desire to wear a camera around my neck at all times to look like a perpetual tourist. Why? People have no expectations from a tourist. We treat a tourist differently. I wanna play with every shade of that difference between lost tourist and super local. Yea, the tourist gets charged more, the locals scoff at his slowness, pushing around him. Yet there's a special sort of respect for the tourist. Maybe its because we are awed by the tourist, who by chance or crook or exposition of will gained the means and courage to travel. We allow the tourist to be odd. And we judge their failures less harshly and their successes more grandly. Perhaps taking on the accoutrements and freedoms of a tourist while in our town can teach us a little about ourselves.

The Man With the Master Plan

Most people are way too suspicious of the nefarious motivations of others. We should be so lucky to meet someone with a plan, even an evil plan. Most people are blah and their ambitions are blah. The danger is not being caught up in an evil scheme but to be caught up in nothing but boringness.

Control

If we spent less effort trying to control the things we can't control, we would have more energy to control the things we can. It's difficult to stand in front of a person, a canvas, on a stage, and have no expectation, to let creation flow freely. But it's worth it. It's very hard to let someone be exactly who they are but magic is not possible unless we do. Unless of course, it is for Tiramisu :) Never sacrifice personal truth for a short term gain - which is really no gain at all. Self-expression becomes a world and a goal all its own. How could the demands of the flesh equal the whisperings of the soul? In my experience, if you express yourself properly you don't need to force or coerce other people to do anything. Choice is a lot sexier than force. You don't want titles or papers or babies to hold on to someone. It's much nicer when people CHOOSE every day to continue to be together. Only when you are okay with your own company do you have anything to offer in the company of others. A person should be man enough, or woman enough, to be able to confront their existential aloneness. People often imagine this feeling as compared to floating in space. In that moment we have passed through the halls of desire and are free of bounds. We no longer need. We are complete. An island.

The most ecstatic feeling is the exact moment when we no longer need that which satisfies our lust. People waste time thinking about what they want but not taking action. Rarely does waiting make success more likely. Accepting other people's limitations can help you blow past yours.

The process of falling in Love

This morning I've been thinking about love. Or I should say, the process of falling in love. Imagination is a neccesary component of falling in love. We look at someone and imagine what we could accomplish together, the adventures. Not saying I'm 'in love' right now. It's just on my mind. There's no 'safe' way to fall in love. To fall in love you must be like a child. Full of imagination and naive. And vulnerable. To fall in love is to put yourself in a creative, open, vulnerable space where everything feels possible. And that's what makes those times in our lives so exciting and addicting. We should be more like children who love easily and mightily. Children run headlong into rejection. While adults construct their lives to avoid the possibility of it. Adults are not stronger than children. They just have more resources.

Future Vu

It's a feeling that you're going to do something again in the future.

You see I am a bit of a hoarder. I still have books from high school, college, perfect attendance certificates, you get the idea, sh!t i'll never use. This weekend I am planning on going through that and bins of electronics, throwing away obsolete power cords, palm pilots when they first came out, walkman players, crt monitors and anything with a Microsoft label. I am going to throw away all those floppy disks too. I remember going nuts when they were on sale at best buy.

And then "future vu" hits me. One day I am gonna throw away my iPhone too.